Ladies, this one is for you! Are you holding onto a relationship that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere? How do you know when it’s time to walk away?
According to Steve Harvey’s fabulous book ‘Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man’ there are three indicators that you need to look out for. If your partner see’s you as a ‘keeper’ he will be doing all three of the following, if one of them is missing you should start pulling on your walking shoes as he see’s you as a ‘throw back’.
Steve calls the three indicators “The Three Ps of Love — Profess, Provide, and Protect.”
If your man loves you, he’s willing to tell anybody and everybody, “Look, man, this is my woman” or “this is my girl,” “my baby’s mama,” or “my lady.”
He will give you an official title!
If he introduces you as his “friend,” or by your name, have no doubt that’s all you are. He doesn’t think any more of you than that.
A profession is key—you will know if a man is serious about you once he claims you.
Real men do what they have to do to make sure their people are taken care of, clothed, housed, and reasonably satisﬁed, and if they’re doing anything less than that, they’re not men—or shall we say, he’s not your man, because he will eventually do this for someone’s daughter, maybe not you.
Your man could be broke, but he’s going to do everything within his power to make up for this by supplying your needs in other tangible ways. If your car is broken down, he may not be able to pay for a mechanic, but he can call his buddies over to help him move your ride to the side of the road and give you rides to work until he ﬁgures out how to pay for your car to get ﬁxed. If you need some pictures hung, and the sink unclogged, and a new garage door installed, a man who loves you will climb up a twenty-foot ladder to get that picture up on the wall, put a bucket down to catch the over-ﬂowing water from the sink while he goes to ﬁnd the right part he needs to ﬁx the pipes, and pore through the instruction manual for hours to ﬁgure out how to get that garage door in.
Providing for the ones he loves and cares about, whether it’s monetarily or with sweat equity, is a part of a man’s DNA, and if he loves and cares for you, this man will provide for you all these things with no limits.
When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests, or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated. Your man will destroy anything and everything in his path to make sure that whoever disrespected you pays for it.
Protection isn’t just about using brute, physical force against someone, though. A man who truly cares about or loves you can and will protect you in other ways, whether it be with advice, or stepping up to perform a task that he thinks is too dangerous for you to do. For instance, if it’s dark outside, he may not want you to put the car in the driveway or walk the dog by yourself because he fears for your safety; in this instance,
he’ll move the cars and walk the dog himself, even if he’s just off a double shift, so that you can be inside where it’s safe.
In sum, ladies, you have to stop heaping your own deﬁnition of love on men and recognize that men love differently. A man’s love ﬁts only into three categories. As I’ve explained, I call them “The Three Ps of Love—Profess, Provide, and Protect.” A man may not go shopping with you to buy the new dress for your ofﬁce party, but a real man will escort you to that party, hold your hand, and proudly introduce you all around the party as his lady (profess); he may not cuddle you and sit by the bed holding your hand while you’re sick, but a real man who loves you will make sure the prescription is ﬁlled, heat up a can of soup, and make sure everybody is in position until you are better (provide); and he may not willingly change diapers, wash the dishes, and rub your feet after a hot bath, but a real man who loves you sure will walk through a mountain and on water before he’d let someone bring any hurt or harm to you (protect).