Most of us agree that at the end of the day, it’s the quality of our relationships that determines how satisfied we are with our lives. So the question tonight is “What does it take to have great relationships?” Note the “s” in relationships so that we are clear I’m not just talking about the relationship with that one significant other, but rather seeking out a set of guidelines that can be followed for all relationships.
I’ve heard it said, and am convinced, that people will often forget what you said or what you did, but they will never forget the way you made them feel. How we make others feel is often a reflection of how we are feeling ourselves. Think about it, it’s difficult to be mean when you’re feeling happy! So the key to healthy relationships is to feel good about yourself and understand that when someone makes you feel bad, rather than take it personal and retaliate, choose to forgive and look deeper to see what’s bothering that person, and if there is a way to make them feel better. People are fragile, we should handle them with care.
Now I’m not suggesting that if someone continues to bully you or make you feel insignificant that you should dedicate your life to trying to fix them, not at all, some people are just toxic and you should steer clear of them. The reason I say this is because above all, the relationships that succeed are with those people who you have a good time with, where joy is frequently shared. These are the times that make you both feel good and that feeling manifests itself as a bond, into a real and meaningful connection. If there is never joy, what is the point?
Well that’s my two cents worth, I’d love to hear your thoughts!